Do not be afraid to be weak...
Being a BadAssMom doesn’t mean you don’t have weak moments… sometimes I wake up and have NO clue what to think of these little issues that arise that I so badly want to ignore… Having weak moments is normal, crying is normal, being hurt is normal, being knocked down is normal. Parenting is tough and there are so many days that we just know without a doubt that we are failing.. YOU are NOT alone. We ALL have these moments of weakness and doubt.
What I want to know is how you handle your weak moments?
I was told by my 13 year old a few weeks ago that I don’t always have to be strong. It’s normal for me to fall. Is this the truth? Should we fall in front of our children?
I know that when I want to cry or am feeling vulnerable, I go straight to the bathroom, shut the door and fall to the floor behind closed doors.
Should we show our children that Mommy falls apart every now and then? I don’t know the answer to that question. But, what I do know is that in this world we are living in and the idea of perfection our children are faced with everyday, it's good for them to see that life isn’t always perfect.
When I was growing up, I never heard my parents argue.
Is this normal?
One day they came to us and told us they were getting a divorce, but we had no idea that there were even any issues.
Is this confusing?
I don’t know the answer to that question either!
What I do know the answer to is, there is NO right or wrong answer when it comes to parenting. If it is right in your home then you should do what you feel is right. No home is the same, and no parent is the same. Yes, we may share the same values and morals as others, but the way we handle issues that arise in our own home shouldn’t fall to judgment on others. YOU do YOU for your home and your family and don’t let the facade of social perfection make you feel bad about it.
Being a BadAssMom is falling and picking yourself right back up and handling what you are faced with, with kindness and love.